I have heard this a few times: I would go to therapy, but I feel like it’s selfish (?). And I’m here to tell you that it is.
It is 100% indulgent, all about you, don’t-look-at-anyone-else time. For a lot of people that can sound kind of scary. It can lead to thoughts of, “what about the children?” or “what about the dogs?” or “what about my book that I should be writing?”…what about all of these things that I should be doing instead of going to therapy, right?
As it turns out, the more we take care of ourselves, the more space we free up for the other people/animals/interests in our lives. You gotta take care of your brain, dude, there’s no getting away from it. No matter where you go, there it is, still inside of that big ol’ dome.
Taking time to do things for yourself feeds your brain, body, and soul. It declutters and reorganizes which then, for me especially, gives me greater energy to direct at other things, like my kids. So instead of deflecting them I am able to engage and read a book for the seventh time, without wanting to scream. Or maybe I still want to scream (let’s be real), but it’s without resentment. I find I have time for homemade lotion. Freeing up this space makes room for other things you care about.
This lotion is kind of indulgent. I have to take time out of my day to make it. But it makes me so happy when I smear it on my hands. I love to grease up my kids after the bath and know that I’m not putting chemicals on their bodies. And it’s not complicated. You don’t have to make lotion, but when you start taking time for yourself (therapy, exercise, good food), you might just want to make your own lotion.
- 1 cup olive oil
- 3/4 cup beeswax
- 1/2 cup coconut oil
- 20-30 drops essential oil (optional)
- Fill a sauce pan about half way full with water and place it on the stove.
- Put the heat or flame around medium.
- In a glass jar (I use an old peanut butter jar), add olive oil, beeswax, coconut oil and essential oil.
- Place lid lightly on jar.
- As everything melts, pick up the jar (careful of the loose lid!) and swirl it around.
- When everything has melted pour it into your vessels of choice (I like the half pint Ball or Mason jars).
- Allow to cool, then dig in! Food for your skin.
- My favorite smell at the moment is 20 drops of lavender, three of patchouli and three of vetiver.